Secure attachment
A sense of security can make it easier to ask for support while respecting each person’s independence. It does not mean never feeling worried or needing distance.
What you might notice
You may be able to discuss needs, accept help and return to a disagreement after calming down. These experiences can change between relationships and during stressful periods.
A practical starting point
Identify something that already helps you feel safe, such as a predictable check-in or a respectful response to “no.” Keep communicating it rather than assuming it is obvious.
Keep the distinction clear
Lower anxiety and avoidance scores describe this set of answers. They are not proof that a relationship is healthy in every respect, or a higher ranking than someone else’s.
Attachment style test
See the attachment tendency your answers lean toward, with the two dimensions behind it.
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